This is a topic that many people asked decennial my career as a Relationship Coach in HitmanSystem.com. The diversity of advice and stories about love out there to make people have a wrong idea of love at first sight. As a result so many hearts are traumatized and wounded relationships, even love became something that is considered dangerous, negative, and painful.
Let's take a ten minutes to educate yourself. Read, ponder, comment, and spread to your friends.
MYTH 1: Love Affairs of the Heart or Soul.
It is true that love is emotions that arise in the form of feeling in the heart or in spirit. But wrong if you think that love was suddenly arise just in the liver. This love grew from a process that occurs in the brain, biology, and your physical. When attracted to someone, your body is flooded with the body's biochemistry such as testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, and norepinephrine were mixed so that you feel certain emotions. Feelings so that later you have translated as 'no sense', 'there is hardly restrain', 'there is a curious', 'there are excited', 'hearts', etc. That is, love fell from the eyes, swirling in the brain and throughout the body system, and then felt in the heart.
MYTH 2: There Love In Fall In Love.
Falling in love at first sight really did not involve love at all. Love is what I mean here is a sense of unity and attachment which binds so that two people could survive through the joys and sorrows together. When approach and occurs in love first sight, there is no love or deep flavor quality that serious. There is only the desire or passion interest to find, approach, and have something that feels good. That encouragement and hope that normal naturally, every human being is created thereby. Every love affair is naturally starting from the flavor.
In approach and romance, things what feels good and evoke passion? Appearance beautiful or sexy. Unique and bizarre behavior. Activities of a game or challenge. And the most important is physical contact.
If there is an opposite sex (intentionally or unintentionally) you involve these things, the body tends to automatically flooded biochemistry that makes you feel 'in love'. But obviously it is not (fall) in love in a real sense, it's just desire or passion for pleasure or excitement provoked particular. So do not tacky and too seriously carry that love to know someone new. Please talk of love when you have to invest and survive through the joys and sorrows together.
MYTH 3: Love it takes certainty and comfort.
This myth makes many people so busy offering comfort, kindness, certainty when approach. In fact quite the opposite, love at first sight alias interests desire and passion that arises because there is a mix of comfort and discomfort. If you make doi 100% comfortable on you, then he only felt safe comfortable to you: he knows that you will always be nice to him, that he would never lose awareness and help you, that you will always be with him even if he does not care or reply your kindness. And notice when you are with someone you love, when love arises because of the convenience, and why you feel nervous, salting, prestige, self-respect, and fear of missteps?
If you give comfort, he was not so interested in you .. he even be flat or indifferent to you. Because when approach, comfort kill the seeds of love.
Try to remember the story of people or your own experience of love at first sight. Often contrary to the ideals that arise from friendship romance. For example, you've only known him through social media and foreign alias is still danger, but somehow the chat you can really connect. Or example, you usually hate people who are narcissistic, but you are amazed that behind it there is a tenderness that not many people know. Or for example, everyone says he player and a jerk, but you are so interested because accidentally saw him work hard for parents who ill.
Blend of comfort and discomfort, paradoxical mixture, it is fertile ground for biochemical turbulence (read: love) at first sight. So many films tells the couple in love accidentally, romance unexpected, because there is a game, an element of accident or danger, as well as thrilling exciting events in other unexpected.
So the conclusion is falling in love at first sight it does not exist. As I wrote in the book Get Her love Under 7 Seconds, only falling hooked or fall lust at first sight, aka Lust At First Sight. Interest desire or passion that later if nurtured in the love relationship will grow so serious, strong, and binding for a long time. Love the onset later, so do not be serious air of quasi-serious tacky upon approach yes .. because not only is it deadly love, but it is also a fraud!
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