The first step that needs to be done to get over ex

Breakup with people we love is a sad and painful. Moreover, if the relationship is long and deep, and we become a party to be decided. Wounded heart, pride crashing, life feels empty and soul into depression are things that are usually perceived by the newly breakup. Counsel from parents and friends so that we forget the ex-girlfriend and move on was difficult to do. Difficulty to forget the ex-girlfriend sometimes happens because we are mistaken in how to do it. We felt it was trying hard to forget, but the memories with ex-girlfriend constantly bothers.
To understand the right way, we must know our brains work that serves to remember as well to forget. Remember that the stronger we ordered the brain to forget something, instead it's more firmly in mind. For example, how can we forget the number 8 in our minds? Not by way of saying to myself many times forget the number 8, but let's think about the numbers 1 continuously. Thus, by itself forgotten figure 8 and figure 1 be appearing in our minds. Figures 8 in our brain are not lost, just focus attenuated along with the strong focus our minds on the number 1. So basically, focus our minds on other things than about ex-girlfriends and hurtful things that cause us to breakup. If you do not already have another focus, create and build focus the mind.
Of course not easy to replace focus the mind on all matters related to ex-girlfriend with anything else. It's not as easy as replacing the 8 became number 1 in our minds. Difficult to forget the ex-girlfriend is because our brains already had traces of memory (neurological pathway) of ex-girlfriend a strong and deeply rooted, which is formed during our connection therewith. It is also strengthened because aspects of our emotions or feelings. So, do not be surprised if little things related to the ex-boyfriend quickly to trigger us to remember and recollected with a former girlfriend. For example, when we look at our pictures with former boyfriend or listening to a song you like ex-girlfriend. But we need to remember always, the principle of replacing the old focus of the mind (ex-girlfriend) to a new mind we built this really valid and important.
How to?The first step that needs to be done to get over ex boyfriend is:

    Getting rid of objects associated with a former girlfriend, such as images, ring or other gift from ex-boyfriend
    Removing digital memories associated ex-girlfriend, like deleting records sms, chat or e-mail from a former girlfriend and friendship with ex-boyfriend in social media such as facebook, etc.
    As much as possible do not go to places or special circumstances that usually we live with ex-boyfriend. When the liver has not been recovered, came to the place or have returned the situation can open old wounds.
    No contact or visit a former girlfriend. Reasons for wanting to make the ex-girlfriend as a friend or a friend of a trap that makes it harder to forget the ex-girlfriend.
The things above, we could certainly held again after our hearts have recovered and our feelings towards the former has neutral. Before that, the existence of the above matters will only make us not able to "move on" from the sting of a breakup it. After the things that can bring up thoughts of a former boyfriend is minimized, the second step is to shift the focus of our thoughts about ex-girlfriends from all the other things that build ourselves. For more easy to understand, let's consider the following illustration:
If we had a full glass of water and a lot of waste paper in it, how do we eliminate the waste? We had to pour more water into the glass until the water in the glass overflow. If you continue to be done, then the waste paper it will be pushed out by the water that we enter into a glass. Pouring water continuously illustrate our brains are filled with thoughts and a new focus that gives us the strength to move on.

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